the temperatures are so cold here, for Oregon. we live in a burned-out suburb in the shadow of a beautiful gorge. the wind whips through the tunnels that rivers have carved out of stone and it hits my children in the face. their cheeks turn bright red and the baby screams. we don't have the right clothes for this, why spend the money when we only have to struggle through a month or two of survival. we huddle inside and turn up the heaters a tiny bit more, my heart anxious about the bill, our feet perpetually cold.
oh, the loneliness of cold air coming at you with the speed of car going down a main road. oh, the loneliness of putting my children into the car and driving the half mile to school because we can't bear to walk. oh the loneliness of driving past so many people that we know who don't have cars, trudging into the wind. oh the loneliness they feel as they walk, scarves held up to their mouths, feeble peacoats barely protecting them, heads held down as they place one foot in front of the other. oh the loneliness of rough and red hands without gloves, of afternoons spent indoors, of children looking longingly at the outdoor world full of sunshine that is too cruel for them currently.
some seasons are harder than others. currently i am taking a break from social media and it is wonderful. the loneliness of wondering about what my life could be has dissipated. the fears for the future have lessened. i do not think that knowledge, or fear, will save me or my neighbors. i have time to sink into my loneliness as if it were a friend. the constant black cat that follows my shadow, and emblem of the salvation of my soul. loneliness has always been one of my great character flaws and loneliness has also always made me put one foot in front of the other. i am trudging towards other people, the ones who are transparently just trying to survive.
my Jesus was sometimes very lonely, it seems to me. he knew what radical love was like, and he knew suffering. in him i see what i both do and do not want for myself: an un-quiet mind and a bleeding heart and eyes to see all that we would rather not.
my loneliness is my good friend. in the cold sun of a terrible January, i close my eyes before mustering up the courage to go back outside. it looks beautiful, and it will cut me to my core.